Sex and the City

I watched Sex and the City and these dialogue made me look for the subtitle and write them down.

Miranda: I don't know that I can trust that it won't happen again.

Doctor: Steve, you're very quiet today.

Steve: Miranda, I know I made it hard for you to trust me...But you made it hard for me to trust you.

Miranda: Me?

Steve: The way you treated me and cut me out of your life like that. I mean, yeah, I broke a vow... but what about the other vows? Like promising to love someone for better or for worst. What about that? How do I know she's not gonna punish me for the rest of my life?

Doctor: You don't. And she doesn't know for sure that you won't have another indiscretion. All you can know is that you wanna move forward... and risk that the love you have for each other won't allow that to happen. And that's what we'll discover here.

I got a friend

I never walk alone, Christ walks beside me,

He is the dearest Friend I’ve ever known;

With such a Friend to comfort and to guide me,

I never, no, I never walk alone.

—Ackley

d' Emperor

I love this story ... read on ... 

An emperor in the Far East was growing old and knew it was time to choose his successor. Instead of choosing one of his assistants or his children, he decided something different. He called young people in the kingdom together one day. He said, "It is time for me to step down and choose the next emperor. I have decided to choose one of you." 

  The kids were shocked! But the emperor continued. "I am going to give each one of you a seed today. One very special seed. I want you to plant the seed, water it and come back here after one year from today with what you have grown from this one seed. I will then judge the plants that you bring, and the one I choose will be the next emperor!" 

  One boy named Ling was there that day and he, like the others, received a seed. He went home and excitedly told his mother the story. She helped him get a pot and planting soil, and he planted the seed and watered it carefully. Every day he would water it and watch to see if it had grown. After about three weeks, some of the other youths began to talk about their seeds and the plants that were beginning to grow.

  Ling kept checking his seed, but nothing ever grew. 3 weeks, 4 weeks, 5 weeks went by. Still nothing. By now, others were talking about their plants but Ling didn't have a plant, and he felt like a failure. Six months went by, still nothing in Ling's pot. He just knew he had killed his seed. 

  Everyone else had trees and tall plants, but he had nothing. Ling didn't say anything to his friends, however. He just kept waiting for his seed to grow. 

  A year finally went by and all the youths of the kingdom brought their plants to the emperor for inspection. Ling told his mother that he wasn't going to take an empty pot. But honest about what happened, Ling felt sick to his stomach, but he knew his mother was right. 

He took his empty pot to the palace. When Ling arrived, he was amazed at the variety of plants grown by the other youths. They were beautiful in all shapes and sizes. Ling put his empty pot on the floor and many of the other kinds laughed at him. A few felt sorry for him and just said, "Hey nice try." 

  When the emperor arrived, he surveyed the room and greeted the young people. Ling just tried to hide in the back. "What great plants, trees and flowers you have grown," said the emperor. "Today, one of you will be appointed the next emperor!" All of a sudden, the emperor spotted Ling at the back of the room with his empty pot. He ordered his guards to bring him to the front. Ling was terrified. "The emperor knows I'm a failure! Maybe he will have me killed!" 

  When Ling got to the front, the Emperor asked his name. "My name is Ling," he replied. All the kids were laughing and making fun of him. The emperor asked everyone to quiet down. He looked at Ling, and then announced to the crowd, "Behold your new emperor! His name is Ling!" Ling couldn't believe it. Ling couldn't even grow his seed. How could he be the new emperor? 

  Then the emperor said, "One year ago today, I gave everyone here a seed. I told you to take the seed, plant it, water it, and bring it back to me today. But I gave you all boiled seeds, which would not grow. All of you, except Ling, have brought me trees and plants and flowers. When you found that the seed would not grow, you substituted another seed for the one I gave you. Ling was the only one with the courage and honesty to bring me a pot with my seed in it. Therefore, he is the one who will be the new emperor!" 

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If you plant honesty, you will reap trust. 

If you plant goodness, you will reap friends. 

If you plant humility, you will reap greatness. 

If you plant perseverance, you will reap victory. 

If you plant consideration, you will reap harmony. 

If you plant hard work, you will reap success.  

If you plant forgiveness, you will reap reconciliation. 

If you plant openness, you will reap intimacy. 

If you plant patience, you will reap improvements. 

If you plant faith, you will reap miracles. 

But 

If you plant dishonesty, you will reap distrust. 

If you plant selfishness, you will reap loneliness. 

If you plant pride, you will reap destruction. 

If you plant envy, you will reap trouble. 

If you plant laziness, you will reap stagnation. 

If you plant bitterness, you will reap isolation. 

If you plant greed, you will reap loss. 

If you plant gossip, you will reap enemies. 

If you plant worries, you will reap wrinkles. 

If you plant sin, you will reap guilt. 

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So be careful what you plant now, It will determine what you will reap tomorrow, The seeds you now scatter, Will make life worse or better, your life or the ones who will come after. Yes, someday, you will enjoy the fruits, or you will pay for the choices you plant today. 

Resiliency

~ Hope this helps ~


Emotional resiliency is the ability to recover and to go on in the face of misfortune and adversity. It is about finding joy in life again.


How does one move forward through the pain of the past?

1. Acknowledge the pain or disappointment.
2. Forgive yourself and /or others.
3. Get moving - emotion can be released through physical activity like walking.
4. Nurture yourself. Do something for yourself that makes you feel nurtured.
5. Focus on what you have and what is important to you. What is good in your life? Who or what gives meaning to your life? What can you contribute?
6. Take the time it takes. It will take time to process and come to terms with what happened. Take the time to grieve.
7. Seek help and support from friends, family, your faith leader and/or professional counselors.


You Have a Choice

I think it is so important that you remember that you have a choice. You may not have any control over what happens to you but you can choose how you respond to it. Viktor Frankl , noted psychiatrist and concentration camp survivor, wrote in his book Man's Search for Meaning: "...everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms -- to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way." (1963, p. 104)


Coaching Questions

* Is there an event or issue in your life that is holding you in the past?
* What would be possible for you if you let this issue go?
* What gives you hope? (the love of a partner, your child, your faith, your dream?)


Actions

1. Write down everything about the situation that you need to let go of. Write down all of your emotions and beliefs about the situation. Release the words and the emotion in a physical way by burning the letter in your fireplace or burying it in the backyard.

2. Write down everything that you are grateful for in your life right now. Do not stop until you have a list of 100 things.

3. Focus on what you would like to see happen in your life and take one small action each day to help you move to that place.

4. Practice the seven steps of resiliency.

Power of Punctuation

An English professor wrote the words : "A woman without her man is nothing"
on the chalkboard and asked his students to punctuate it correctly.

All of the males in the class wrote : "A woman, without her man, is nothing."

All the females in the class wrote : "A woman: without her, man is nothing."

Life's little instructions

1. Never tell a person who is experiencing deep sorrow "I know how you feel" because you don't.

2. Never risk what you can't afford to lose.

3. Once a year, go somewhere you've never been before.

4. Remember that the formula for great love is communication + respect.

5. When declaring your rights, don't forget your responsibilities.

6. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a stroke of good luck.

5 Basic Principles

~ Found these while browsing some blogs....

1) Don't let someone become a priority in your life when you are just an option for them.

2) Never cry for any relation in life because for the one whom you cry does not deserve your tears and the one who deserves will never let you cry.

3) Treat everyone with politeness even those who are rude to you, not because they are not nice but because you are nice.

4) Never search your happiness in others which will make you feel alone, rather search it in yourself, you will feel happy even if you are left alone.

5) Happiness always looks small when we hold it in our hands but when we learn to share it, we realize how big and precious it is.